Why is it that when you are divorced or separated, everything seems to conspire to make you believe that the whole world is in love, in a couple and living in a blissful idyll. The hurdle of Christmas and all it represents – happy families, two parents under one...
Often people tell me how alone and isolated they feel in their separation and divorce. Statistically we all know how common divorce is, but that knowledge does nothing to alleviate the feeling of being alone. The other predominant issue is how overwhelming feelings...
Make a resolution for 2013 to find a new life for you. It may feel right now, like second best or like you don’t know where to start. One minute in one day is where you start and take one minute or one hour at a time. By holding onto hostility or endless thoughts...
There is a story in the Telegraph today http://bit.ly/12labQY that if gay marriage was legalised, there would be no divorce on the grounds of adultery. Why? Apparently, the legal definition of adultery is sex between men and women. I don't think a person in a same...
If you are separated or divorced, you know only too well, how difficult Christmas can be. There is the idealized image portrayed by glossy magazines and TV adverts. The image of happy families opening presents under the tree and sharing fun and laughter around a...
Sir Paul Coleridge was interviewed in the Daily Mail today saying that young people enter marriage with expectations that are unrealistic. He cites Hallo magazine as setting up idyllic marriage scenarios which people buy into and then get disappointed that life is in...
A curious article appeared last week in The Mirror: http://bit.ly/SVGdyk which said that a woman was divorcing her husband because he refused her demands for raunchy sex. The article went on to say that more women are divorcing their men because of the Christian Grey...
There is an article published today http://bit.ly/TZqrmV about women who anticipate divorce, working longer hours. In this economic climate, divorce is an added stress on the household budget, even more so than normally. Women who historically have not been the...
There is an article in the Telegraph http://bit.ly/YOJuSW about women relying on joint savings on retirement. This has an impact when people divorce after a very long marriage. One of the most stressful things for women is going into the next phase of their lives...
It is natural to think that those you thought were closest to you would jump to the occasion and provide all the comfort and security needed. However, friends who you might have been on numerous holidays with as families or as a couple, or friends that you spent...
The Co-op have announced that they are now dealing with divorces on a sliding scale from £99. Campaigners have been quick to step in and say that it will just encourage divorce and devalues marriage. The divorce process itself is such a long and protracted one and...
The Marriage Foundation has published some research today which has been written about in the Daily Mail. They have quoted some statistics showing that divorce rates are going down and that fewer women than in the past apply for a divorce especially in the first...
If you and your partner are in crisis or in difficulties, I can offer you both a joint session and we can explore how to help you improve things between you or how to separate as comfortably as possible.
This blog is written by Michael Rowlands, Senior Partner at Kingsley Napley: The American writer Jonathan Franzen suggested that “nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people”. As a divorce lawyer I see, daily, the fall out of such relationships and...
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