A woman went to court this week to argue that squabbling with her husband was sufficient to show irretrievable breakdown of her marriage. Her application was rejected. This comes at the same time as an article in the Telegraph quoting Mr Justice Wall saying that...
No Fault Divorce.
An article in the Guardian today quotes Mr Justice Wall saying that the time had come for no fault divorces. I entirely agree. That is not to say that he or I or anyone who supports that argument are saying that divorce is an easy option or that marriage is not a...
Sex and Divorce
An article in the Mail Online India talks about people being granted a divorce because of lack of sex, deemed by the Judiciary in India as cruelty. Often individuals in our support groups talk about how in the last fews years of their marriage their partner did not...
Does cohabitation prior to marriage affect divorce statistics?
There is an article in today’s Daily Mail containing research on whether divorce statistics are affected by whether people live together first or not. In the 60’s people who lived together before they married had a much higher chance of divorce thanthey do today. ...
The Divorce Hotel
As a psychotherapist specialising in Divorce and Separation, I was really interested to read about the Divorce Hotel in the Netherlands. Myinitial response was to think that it must be a gimmick. The idea is that two people who are well intentioned enough to want an...
Next Workshop
Following wonderful feedback from our last workshop where all the participants continue to see each other socially, we are running another one in Holborn Central London on Saturday 25th March 2012. Whether you are newly separated, or going through the legal process or...
Mediation – A good method?
An interesting article in the Guardian today about mediation: http://bit.ly/yJBzZt It confirms that mediation does work when both people are invested in the process and are able to reach a compromise. In other words, with a skilled mediator, those people who will go...
Is the economic climate making it harder to divorce?
An article in The Scotsman today talks about less people divorcing because they can't afford to. The article can be read here: http://bit.ly/wuL32v I think the economic climate does make it very difficult to separate for some people. Where there are insufficient...
Does your Ex need to be your enemy
In the wake of the launch of the Debrett's 'Guide To A Civilised Divorce', theTelegraph ran a story on 'How NOT to make your ex your enemy',in which I am quoted. Is there such as thing as an amicable divorce? In myopinion, there can be, although this does not mean it...
Our Divorce Workshop
We ran a really successful divorce workshop on Saturday in Central London. The purpose of the day was to help people manage their overwhelming feelings associated with separation. We talked about loss, feeling stuck, managing children's expectations and emotions,...
A Civilised Separation
The Sunday Telegraph Stella Magazine wrote a good article on the new Debretts Guide to Civilised Separation. You can read the article and my comments here: http://tgr.ph/x3iElT
Divorce in a Box.
Suzy Miller from the Starting Over Show has introduced Divorce in a Box. This is reviewed here: http://bit.ly/AuUuLH Can divorce and all its ramifications be put in box? The idea is that all the things you may need to know about divorce comes in this lovely box...
Couple Sessions
If you and your partner are in crisis or in difficulties, I can offer you both a joint session and we can explore how to help you improve things between you or how to separate as comfortably as possible.
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Parental alienation.
I read with interest about CAFCASS 'ground breaking' report on how to deal with Parental Alienation. There are many children who on divorce and separation have been subtly or not so subtly alienated from one parent by the other. The result is that they are...
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