Much is written about the effect of divorce on women, but much less about men. Men who have been left feel depressed and isolated. Generally men feel that they have no one to talk to, see much less of their children than they did before and have to find money that they worry that they haven’t got. Women seem more able to engage the help of friends, family and professional support. The men who seek professional support do much better than those who carry on with a public face that belies how terrible they feel inside. It is easy to marginalise how men feel and imagine that they are doing fine when in fact, much of the time they are not.